Dating violence/relationship violence is a pattern of coercive and abusive tactics employed by one partner in a relationship to gain power and control over the other partner. It can take many forms, including physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation, and emotion, sexual or economic abuse.
The most important thing you should know is that what you are experiencing or have experienced is not your fault. Often, abusers will use the tactic of convincing you that you deserve the abuse (e.g. “You make me act like this.”).
No one ever deserves to be put down, physically harmed, or have their lives controlled by another person – no matter what.
Unfortunately, thousands of individuals of diverse ethnicities, classes, abilities, sexual orientations, and gender expressions are victimized in relationships every year.
Looking for more information about the nature and dynamics of relationship violence? Check out the Duluth Model for info.